
So, naturally, I thought this woman who had single-handedly raised her own platform while writing a book AND being a great mom to twins under the age of two, would be the right voice to pull into our GOALS discussion this month. Her answer surprised me.
I asked my former client and always friend, Cheryl:
As a busy author, blogger and mother of twins, how important has setting clear, definable goals been in your writer's life? 
CL: Go ahead and consider it blasphemy if you wish, but goal-setting is not my mode.
The word goal assaults me from the page or screen; it’s too in my face. Intimidating. Daunting. Always dangling a threat of the elusive unachievable, or worse, the possible---even probable—likelihood of failure. Undeniably, the word tends to motivate others, but it resoundingly thwarts my typically Pollyanna-like confidence.

CL: Go ahead and consider it blasphemy if you wish, but goal-setting is not my mode.
The word goal assaults me from the page or screen; it’s too in my face. Intimidating. Daunting. Always dangling a threat of the elusive unachievable, or worse, the possible---even probable—likelihood of failure. Undeniably, the word tends to motivate others, but it resoundingly thwarts my typically Pollyanna-like confidence.
TLC: I would never have guessed this in a million years! Cheryl exuded confidence and poise at every step of the publishing process from start to finish...but I get her point.
CL: Semantics are important to writers...and equally important to folks like me, those more accurately defined as self-transcribing talkers. Using the word goal somehow provides leeway for rationalizing the inability to attain. A seeming excuse for the target missed, the finish line uncrossed. Yet the word dreams seems too ethereal; aspirations too lofty.
Strong desire dictates thoughtful discernment, so let’s talk terminology. If it’s a personal mandate, give your goal a new name. Re-title it a responsibility.
After all, goals imply trying. To quote an ancient Jedi master, which trust me, I don’t do often, “Do or do not. There is no try.” As a ‘busy author, blogger, mother of twins,’ freelance writer, full-time ad agency post-production producer and wife of an amazing man fighting cancer, I have no goals. I have responsibilities. Duties. Priorities.
After all, goals imply trying. To quote an ancient Jedi master, which trust me, I don’t do often, “Do or do not. There is no try.” As a ‘busy author, blogger, mother of twins,’ freelance writer, full-time ad agency post-production producer and wife of an amazing man fighting cancer, I have no goals. I have responsibilities. Duties. Priorities.
Setting clear definable “do’s” is not only important, it’s imperative---in my life as a writer, and as a woman.
TLC: Well said, Cheryl. While I do think it's important to face those issues and words in a writer's life that stimulate fearful thinking and feeling - it's what I coach - if renaming a process or term helps you wrap your brain, confidence and ability around succeeding, do it! Keep moving forward, whatever it takes.
Your Action: What makes you fearful about the creative or publishing process? Take time this weekend to pinpoint your main issue(s), own up to them honestly and commit to working your way around this fear. Don't allow fear to keep you from achieving your goals, responsibilities, bench-marks or to-dos!
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